LABELLING IS A FORM OF NAME CALLING

Unless you're a therapist or psychologist, it is not in your place to diagnose a person of the following:

Antisocial

Narcissistic

Paranoid

Drama queen

Borderline

Histrionic

Toxic

Clueless

Crazy

 

Hold up, don't come for me. I'm sure by now you will be cursing me under your breath and probably saying these are normal "words" used to describe a person's behavior.

That's right, "a person's behavior," but wait a minute.

You know, it is easier for us to slap a label on someone but ourselves.

 

The above listed are the creative descriptions we use to describe someone we are frustrated by/with.

What's amazing is that we always find someone who is in agreement with our statements and assessments.

The truth is that labelling the other person doesn't change the person; it only creates more conflicts.

 

While it is important to stop labelling people, it is practical to learn how to identify and label their behaviors .

The distinction is the ability to separate the person from their behavior.

 

So do this:

Instead of labeling and diagnosing, look out for behaviors to deal with.

How? you might ask.

By using your inbuilt super power, called "shifting your perspective".

 

This super power will save you from unnecessary arguments, conflicts, and irritations.

A change of thought makes you feel differently and also affects your response and behaviour.

When you understand that a person behaves in ways that best suit them, a person's opinion is just another perspective. Communication will be easy.

 

It will help you have decent conversations void of arguments and emotions, which in turn helps you maintain your cool and pass your message clearly to the next person.

At that moment, you will discover that you no longer see the person as difficult or toxic but rather as the second party to communication.