BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

Unless you're a therapist or psychologist, it is not in your place to diagnose a person of the following: Antisocial Narcissistic Paranoid Drama queen Borderline Histrionic Toxic Clueless Crazy   Hold up, don't come for me. I'm sure by now you will be cursing me under your breath and probably saying these are normal "words" used to describe a person's behavior. That's right, "a person's behavior," but wait a minute. You know, it is easier for us to slap a label on someone but ourselves.   The above listed are the creative descriptions we use to describe someone we are frustrated by/with. What's amazing is that we always find someone who is in agreement with our statements and assessments. The truth is that labelling the other person doesn't change the person; it only creates more conflicts.   While it is important to stop labelling people, it is practical to learn how to identify and label their behaviors . The distinction

Arise o compatriots, Nigeria call obey, our national anthem sing. For 62 years we have sang this anthem with nothing to show for it. We have sung it as just the lyrics of a common song. The only service we give to our country is to go for NYSC. Even in that one year, we don't really serve. I mean, why serve when we can easily split our allawee between ourselves and those in authority? What happened to serving with love and strength and faith? This has become a fallacy; we only serve in capacities that favour us directly or indirectly. Our full strength is seen when we serve people we know, people who tip us, and people with whom we exchange our service for something in return. What about poor Nigerians with neither silver nor gold? What happens to them?  Okay! How about serving with love? LOVE? You've got to be kidding; are you not in Nigeria? Yes, I'm in "the Nigeria" where love is described as a scam. To say "I love you" translates to "I want some